“Mine” and “thine” – these chilling words which introduce innumerable
wars into the world…
-
John
Chrysostom
A rare cool morning in summer, I take Eli outside to rock
with me in our disintegrating porch swing.
He is fussy over the fat front teeth pressing through his tender gums
and I stroke his blond waves and croon, “Summertime, and the livin’ is easy…so
hush little baby, don’t you cry.” There
is a melancholy breeze whispering that contradicts and compliments the gentle, sparkling,
sunshine; a parallel to this song’s uplifting lyrics set to a blue melody that
makes you wonder, “One of these mornings, you’re gonna rise up singing, spread
your wings, and take to the sky. Until
that morning, ain’t nothin’ can harm you, with Momma and Daddy standin’ by.”
I too am feeling the paradox of joy and sorrow, relishing
this sweet moment with my precious baby on a beautiful day, while my heart is
heavy, conscious of those for whom the livin’ is far from easy. Thousands are
dead in Gaza, and for those that live, each day is a terror. I am constantly imagining the minds of
mothers there. What do you do when you
see your child dead or wonder if this might be the last day that they
live? What do you do when even hospitals
and designated
shelters aren’t safe and playgrounds
are potential targets? I heard a story
of the US
restocking Israeli munitions so that such attacks could continue and felt
my stomach turn and a scream get stuck in my throat. How can destroying one person’s life be seen
as a way to support another?
I think with shame of buses full of children and mothers who
are not much more than children, who have escaped the threat of gangs forcing
them to kill or be killed, who endured a traumatic journey through hostile
countrysides and deserts, only to be
taunted, terrorized and threatened and locked away in a place where they sought sanctuary.
Earlier, when harvesting okra in our backyard, I remembered
the Pakistani man who came to the US with his two children to
testify about the death of his mother.
She was killed by a US drone while teaching her young granddaughter and
to pick okra. Her grandson was
nearby. He says he prefers cloudy days
now, sunny days fill him with fear and anger, on sunny days drones buzz like
summer bees and steal lives with their stings.
I squint at the cheerful blue sky above and kiss Eli’s hands and hair,
reluctantly loosening my hold as he grabs at the chain of the swing and tries
to pull himself to standing. It’s hard
to accept a society where some are expected to learn to call those most
precious to them, “collateral damage.”
A creeping anxiety has begun to sneak into the evening. It is especially troublesome when Ted is away
and I think of something happening to him or to Eli. Are we any more deserving of safety, are we
any less vulnerable than the neighborhood family who just lost their three-year-old
daughter? She was even at home, yet
a bullet still found her from the street.
My dreams take a dark turn. I see
my sister and nephew in pools of blood and am horrified and haunted even when
the morning light leans warmly in, sending bouncing rainbows from the prism
hanging in the window. They are not just
numbers to me but devastating loss of dear loves that will never be forgotten
or recovered.
The next morning I sit nursing Eli with the radio on in the
background. Another young, unnarmed
black man, has been shot by the police.
A friend whose staying with us tells me this happens far
more than is reported, usually the media grabs hold of it when there is a
community response that can add dramatic flare and detract attention from the
violence and corruption infecting our police forces. I hear the voice of this
young man’s mother break as she relates the story of seeing his body, which
had been left for hours in the street.
Instead of being given an explanation by the police, she is cursed at
and driven away. “He was my first born,”
she says and tears run down my face as I nourish my own firstborn. I wrestle with the awareness that because he
is not brown and does not live in the Middle East, his chances of having the
opportunity to spread his wings and take to the sky are significantly
higher. What good is it for Mommy and
Daddy to be standing by when others don’t believe in your life’s worth?
That night Eli will not stay asleep. Ted and I give up and let him stay up with
us. We’d been attempting an in-house
date night, dinner and a movie, but welcome the interruption and expansion of
the evening into family date night. I am
grateful that we are all together, and laughing and tuck away each moment as a
treasure.
When we finally get to bed I think of God. A part of me wants to be angry or
unbelieving. But overriding these
reactive feelings is a shared sense of sorrow.
I meet God’s presence not with any accusation or pleading but with
empathy. I think of my own heavy sadness
and imagine how much more the mother-heart of God must weigh as she witnesses
her babies killed and killing and longs to gather them all under her wing and
sing, “Hush, little baby, don’t you cry.”
I find myself grasping for hopeful threads to weave as I
move forward through the days that continue to open, signs that will free me to
be joyful and challenge me to be constructive in my conscientiousness,
responsive and responsible. I am
uplifted by the actions of a group of friends who went to Syracuse to confront
the Hancock Airforce base that launches drones.
They served an order of protection
on behalf of the children of Pakistan and were arrested but later released with
future court dates that will grant them the opportunity to continue their
witness and resistance to these “targeted strikes” that continue to strike down
wedding parties, goat herding youths and grandmothers. I am encouraged by my
friend who started Because, I Love Peace, which shares
updates about the tragedies in Iraq, but also accounts of the efforts of those
bringing relief services through the Foundation for Reconciliation
and Relief in the Middles East (FRRME). I am heartened to see the governor
in my current home state gathering religious leaders
and congregations together to consult and come up with a plan to help house and
care for migrant children who have come to the U.S. seeking refuge and reunion
with family. Governor O’Malley is not
only seeking available institutions but inviting individuals and families to
play a role and offer foster care.
In this morning’s
daily readings the gospel selection (Matt. 18:15-20) contains an interesting
juxtaposition. Jesus talks about the
reconciliation process to be practiced if “your brother sins against you.” If
you are not able to work things out quietly, “bring one or two others, that
every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three
witnesses.” A few verses down, Jesus
seems to switch gears, saying, “whatever you bind on earth shall be loosed in
heaven,” and “if two of you agree on earth about anything they ask, it will be
done for them by my Father in heaven.”
It seems like a non-sequitar unless the repetition of “two or three”
indicates that this is not merely a matter of filing a complaint or making a
request but being in a reconciliation process with God akin to the one
described above. This indicates a
condition not only of being heard but of listening, a need for mediation and interaction in which we are also
required to allow God to ask something of us.
